Relationships

Okay I'm here too. Let's get started with Question #1:

1. Every person is involved in at least one relationship of some type or another. What do the relationships you have in your life mean to you, especially as a new college student?

They mean a lot to me. My friends help me so much. They help me study and they're my support.

JamieRicker wrote:They mean a lot to me. My friends help me so much. They help me study and they're my support.

So you're friends are a huge positive influence. How about your family?

yea having someone to talk to and not have to worry about anything helps alot when things are stressing me out

Without the relationships I have with my family and friends I don't think I could have made it to where I am now. So having said that they mean more to me than words can explain

A relationship with friends and family helps me alot. My friends get me through difficult time by talking and my parents give me money...thats like the best relationship, one where you get money!!!

the relationships i share with my family and friends mean everything to me. I know that no matter what i can count on them to be there and they help me through things. Such as college or even just personal matters.

mrussell wrote:Without the relationships I have with my family and friends I don't think I could have made it to where I am now. So having said that they mean more to me than words can explain

Ya that is really true i know i wouldn't be here without my family and friends. They do alot more than they have to.

MartinM wrote:A relationship with friends and family helps me alot. My friends get me through difficult time by talking and my parents give me money...thats like the best relationship, one where you get money!!!

But surely you jest. In what other ways does your family relationships contribute positively, especially with regard to college?

my mom still sometimes wakes me up for class..so with out her i'd miss my 8 oclock..
but she does encourage me to try my hardest and get the best grades i can.

Relationships to me mean that there is always someone there that you can lean and rely on. Some of the most important relationships to me are the ones with my family, friends, and my boyfriend. It helps because there is always some one there who is not going to be judgemental about you or something that you have done, so i think that relationships play a very important role in peoples lives.

My sister has had most of the classes I'm in now. So she gives me her old notes and tells me the good teachers and stuff like that.

RachealGipson wrote:Relationships to me mean that there is always someone there that you can lean and rely on. Some of the most important relationships to me are the ones with my family, friends, and my boyfriend. It helps because there is always some one there who is not going to be judgemental about you or something that you have done, so i think that relationships play a very important role in peoples lives.

How do you think this helps you with regard to your college life?

JamieRicker wrote:tells me the good teachers and stuff like that.

My friends used to do this for me when I was working on my undergraduate degree. You'd be surprised at how much personality differences can play into how well you will do in a class with one professor or another. Sometimes your friends can help in that regard because they know you well enough to know what professors you might work well with or not.

The relationship with my family is very important to me. They help me in so many ways and get me through. Words just cannot explain what my family means to me.

They help because if you dont understand something they can teach you how to do it, give you encouragement when you have a big test coming up and most of the time with your friends they are going through the same things that you are so they understand where you are coming from and why you are feeling the way that you are.

Well, like others have said...I would not be where I am without my family. My family does so much for me.

RandiP wrote:The relationship with my family is very important to me. They help me in so many ways and get me through. Words just cannot explain what my family means to me.

This is important because a lot of new college students see college as a way to "get out from under" and, indeed, that can be an important lesson to some extent, but family support is still crucial.

ya my family still lets me live at home and eat their food so that is a big plus:)

Sometimes their support turns into pressure.

I have alot of family support, don't know what I would do without it. I sure wouldn't be where I am today without it.

Okay here is Question #2. As usual feel free to continue discussing any previous questions as well:


2. William Schutz was a researcher who discovered that people become involved in relationships of different types in order to satisfy three basic interpersonal needs: 1) inclusion, 2) affection, and 3) control. Consider control. How do you think the decision to be involved in a relationship with someone could turn out to be a bad decision with regard to the need to have control over another person? How do you think this relates to your success as a college student?

JamieRicker wrote:Sometimes their support turns into pressure.

Interesting point. How so?

For me it's when they start talking about how good my older sister is doing in college. I feel like I have to live up to her.

i don't really understand the question.